— Bob-a-job-alog-a-roonie

I didn’t know what I was looking for

And it wasn’t there

It is a common psychological concept that the desire of love can drive behaviour.

I suggest that love is a plus minus thing.

When you get love on the positive side, you want more. It feeds upon itself negatively.

When you get love on the negative side, you want less. It is the wrong side of love.

(the negative side is not the opposite of love, it is the absence of love)

(sorry, drunk)

I’ve almost worked it out.

Adoption of babies is such a big deal that many prospective adopted parents miss out.

We want to give our love to those who are not our own flesh and blood. It is  a real thing.

But you could argue that such generosity could be clouded by feelings of ownership and “look at me”.

Why not take it to the next level. Where your world has no idea of what you are doing. Your giving is purely something felt by you and the recipient.

I have had a few odd occasions where my helping someone was not broadcast, and the story stayed in my head, and I walked taller because of it.

It is the difference between giving $5 to a homeless person, and giving $5 to a homeless person and not telling anyone you did that.

No. it isn’t so simple. I have a workaround. Build up all of your giving and one day tell someone. It could be 5 years of giving. Be driven by the future admission.

Adopting a baby is relatively easy. There are other forms of adoption one can take. Less rewarding forms in terms of accolades. But rewarding just as much.

Make a friend with someone who doesn’t have friends. Hold hands with someone who snarls at the world.

This is an idea for a new book form. Think of the old Rolodex, and get someone to redesign the general concept as a work of beauty – a new kind of coffee-table book. Minimalist and cleverly functional. Maybe handles of either side of the spindle and a button to turn the pages.

Because of the style, these books lean towards a minimalistic structure – no cover page, no table of contents, no page numbers.

My idea for a first iteration is called More is Less – Everything Has a Limit, with a theme of highlighting where “progress” isn’t necessarily good. For example:

Nuclear power / Chernobyl
Capitalism / the 1%
Plastic / polluted oceans, dead creatures

Every pair of open pages have a photo or art on the left and a short quotable sentence, and/or statistics on the right.  It should be punctuated with irony.

The price of the book is 4x cost to produce, and promoted as such. Contributors get a 50% share of the profits, and charities get the other 50%.

I’d livestream this but too drunk…

(note to self, make a website / directory of Diceman-related stuff…)

Visit Amazon, choose 6 different book genres with the dice, then 6 different sub-genres, then the top 6 ranked results, then buy. 100% dice driven 🙂

(by forcing you to come up with categories, the winning is already happening)

1. Business
2. Computers
3. History
4. Literature
5. Science
6. Science Fiction

And the dice says… 2

Shit…

1. Business Technology
2. Computer Science
3. Internet & Social Media
4. Security and Encryption
5. Software
6. Web Development and Design

And the dice says (yep I know one is called a die)… 6

Best Sellers are:

1. Crushing It!: How Great Entrepreneurs Build Their Business and Influence-and How You Can, Too
2. Building a StoryBrand: Clarify Your Message So Customers Will Listen
3. Python Crash Course: A Hands-On, Project-Based Introduction to Programming
4. The Everything Store: Jeff Bezos and the Age of Amazon
5. The Design of Everyday Things: Revised and Expanded Edition
6. Password book: A Premium Journal And Logbook To Protect Usernames and Passwords: Modern Password Keeper, Vault, Notebook and Online Organizer with … Calligraphy and Hand Lettering Design)

And the winner is… 5

I never would have picked this book off the shelf. Never. But it might make sense, deep diving into why we choose what we do. Ordered!

($13.75 USD, up to a month for delivery, all good)

Ppl can livestream this, including the purchase, and then report back later.

One week later – I feel this is good for a once, but not terribly repeatable…

I’ve done the impossible before, so these are not madness:

• Sell my drone idea to Google
• Defeat Facebook
• Make my offline digital ID idea a reality
• Defeat AI
• Find love again
• Create a feasible digital currency
• Prove that I have found Noah’s Ark
• Guide my kids with all of my heart
• Stay healthy
• Gamify world peace

Men used to decorate buildings when they were built, now they are relatively featureless.

Men use to wear three-piece suits.

Men used to speak fancy.

Just like peacocks, magpies and most many animals try to impress with decoration.

(yes, some try to impress with strength, but that is a different topic…)

Men don’t decorate much these days.

I feel that women are decorating more now. I feel the tide is turning. I feel that roles are reversing or at the least balancing.

PRECEDENT

• Alcoholics
• Drug Addicts
• Self Harm
• Sex Addicts
• Eating Disorder
• Gambling
• Sexual Predator / Flasher
• Obsessive Exerciser
• Domestic Abuse

Most people would look at that list and think the theme is an ongoing lack of self control.

I believe it is a momentary lack of reason, an isolated incident where you say fuck this, let’s do that.

Because of that one moment of insanity, you have set a precedent.

You will most likely think of that word in a legal context, where a precedent has been set from a single court case.

If that court case made a wrong decision, that could affect every other court case with the same circumstances, wrongly, for decades or more.

If you make one wrong decision, that could affect every other decision you make within the same circumstances, wrongly.

That first cigarette, even though you knew it was wrong, meant that same wrong decision for decades.

GOOD v BAD

Two sporting failures for kids:

• Kid falls of jumping pony and breaks collarbone
• Kid fails double flip at Trampoline World into a foam pit

Who gets back on the horse, so to speak?

Your persona/soul/brain/subconscious already has a million rules in place. Once you have made a decision, and the same circumstances arise again, it is inefficient to go through the decision process again. So you refer back to last time, and repeat.

For most things, this is awesome. Most people will squeeze the same amount of toothpaste onto their brush each time, fill a glass of wine to the same level, and order your “favourite” at  a restaurant.You don’t have to rethink those many thousands of little decisions you make every day.

But when you make a bad decision, the same process applies, an economical precedent is in place.

DON’T MAKE RULES

All of the above probably just makes sense and you are thinking not ground-breaking. Here’s the new thing:

Subconscious or not, the stronger the moral/ethical/logical rule in your head is, the more likely a precedent will be set when you break that rule.

Here’s a real world example from me. I needed to lose a few kilos. Not a lot, but enough for it to motivate me to try.

Rigid rules: on these days I will do these things. Eat just protein, fast, free day, whatever – set into a calendar.

Fuzzy rules: in general I will aim for 2 healthy meals out of 3 per day. And on mornings when I don’t feel hungry, I’ll skip breakfast.

With the rigid rules, when I break any of the rules, any one time, a very strong precedent was set because I cared about it more. I had invested more into it.

With fuzzy rules, care is less. If I have a day of one healthy meals instead of two, I’ll not care as much, and the validating reasons will have more power.

For weight loss fuzzy has worked for me way better. I’ve gained weight again recently (we are talking 5kg plus or minus my whole adulthood, which perhaps makes it easier to observe, detached…). But I am not stressed about losing it again, because I wasn’t stressed last time. I have  set a precedent of easy.

RELATIONSHIPS

When you decide to kiss someone (consensual of course), that decision becomes a precedent. Making love, ditto. Dressing up and going to work at the same time every day, ditto. No need to rethink the decision.

But what it kissing someone was a more random and fuzzy decision, more of a toss of a coin, less of a hard calculated decision? What if you had a job where you can rock up whenever you felt like it (paid for the actual hours your work)?

 THE ANSWER

If it is good, make strong rules.

If it is not good, make fuzzy rules.

That way the good will have a strong precedent and the weak will have a fuzzy precedent.

Some people are good at procrastinating, but it only works if deadlines are involved.

I have many things I would like to achieve, but none of them have deadlines.

The alternative is to just do it. Not easy, but I have just done it previously. And I will, starting a week from now 😉

• Stop penny-pinching. I am no longer poor and it is a poor use of my energy
• Have one vegetarian day per week
• Build, finish and promote my Ugg boot and hiccup websites
• Sell my AdWords expertise at a much higher rate. I am worthy
• Complete my Noah’s Ark solution and get a Nat Geo doco made, in Iran
• Stop drinking in non-drinking situations (just slipped than in there, thinking nobody would notice)
• No more inappropriate drugs either
• Destroy Facebook with a better, free, alternative. And sell it to Google for $$$
• Get out of St Kilda, and Australia, more
• Be in places where I can find someone nice to hang out with
• Talk to more strangers, I’m actually good at it
• Oh, and change the world, again. I’m good at that also

So now there have been 8 instances where if things had turned out slightly different, I wouldn’t be here any more:

Fractured skull from a London taxi
Fell down a steep snow slope with rocks at the bottom
Kidnapped by a psychopath
Robbed at knifepoint in Times Square
Mad 1st wife slept with big knives under her pillow
Wrote off a car
Wrote off another car
Last week’s head damage mishap