Shared Memories
I saw online, more than once, women desiring a partner who they could form memories with. As someone who tries very much to live in the moment, that sounded odd.
It can go two ways, I feel.
- She thinks that we live in an Instagram life, where the recording is more important than the experience itself. People at rock concerts recording it instead of feeling it… Which means that looking back on previous situations is preferable to experiencing something in the present. Count me out!
- Shared experiences are what establishes a relationship – a relationship is literally defined by the shared experiences. She has confused creating memories (as in being actively creative) with memories simply occurring as a consequence of existing.
I am choosing not to judge anyone who says “shared memories” because I think the intent is highly likely to be genuine and not contrived.