Everyone is F*cked Up
I’ve had this opinion for 20 years and it hasn’t needed any revision….
Everybody is f*cked up, one way or another. If you approach people with this in mind, you might have more empathy and you might have more use.
1. F*cked up and blissfully unaware
2. F*cked up and struggling with it
3. F*cked up and dealing with it
There’s no right or wrong, it is just three versions of the same thing. However #3 is clearly the ideal for most people*. For example, Donald Trump is severely f*cked up and is blissfully unaware of it. While he might lead a contented life, he is unaware of the impact he has on others.
You will know someone who is battling their demons and it is not pretty to watch. They are #2.
People who are at #3 are more likely to evolve and thrive as a human being. They are still f*cked up, they just recognise it and deal with it.
If you approach everyone in the world as being in one of these 3 categories, you will be a better citizen (in my opinion). Give it a go, it’s only a a view and you can switch it off if it doesn’t suit you. For me the hardest part of this philosophy is staying positive.
I consider myself a #3. I had severe problems with my parents, my brother, drugs, alcohol and not knowing I was Aspergers. I consider all these issues resolved.
*there are many instances where being unaware would be the best outcome, typically involving childhood trauma.